My husband can be so mean and I have all kinds of scenarios running through my head that he's doing it on purpose. It hurts so much and I end up eating my feelings!
ANSWER:
Right now your brain is only allowing you to see what is wrong with your husband.
You believe you are feeling hurt because of what he is saying and doing. But it is your thinking that is hurting you, not your husband. When you are the victim, it's as though he's doing this to you and you don't have any control and aren't taking responsibility.
Negative emotions are okay to feel, but be aware that you don't wallow in them (or eat them) and if you are, you know these emotions have become dirty pain.
Once you've allowed and processed why you are choosing to be hurt, then decide what you want to believe on purpose.
Happiness is created by the way we choose to think--not our circumstances and not due to how others behave.
If you want to feel happy in your marriage, what thoughts will create that feeling for you, regardless of the circumstances? THOSE thoughts won't be clutter.
Choose to be the hero of the story you want to tell.
